Dear Kylee:

You wrote: “in this relationship that just ended, its really hard for me to identify at times whether its me being anxious or if the person is just not doing that much”- it will be a good thing for you if you are able to identify this, to figure out what about your expectations of a boyfriend are reasonable and what stem from your anxiety and are not reasonable.

About your father, you wrote: “He has his own issues and I know they aren’t my fault. But I tend to feel this way anyway.”- it may help with the identifying you mentioned, if you listed perhaps, your father’s issues that are not your fault although you feel that they are (your fault)?

anita