Hi Annie,

It sounds like your anxiety is pretty severe. I think if there is a way you could have worked on it on your own you would have. It can’t be willed away, despite our best intentions. Sometimes, we have to let go of our pride, and if we want to save our relationship, we need to ask for help from a professional. Sometimes anxiety is learned and becomes a chemical imbalance in our brain. We would not want to deny a diabetic insulin, so we should not deny ouuselves medication and therapy. Your boyfriend has told you ” he is tired of it” so maybe tell him, you will seek professional help. Maybe he can go with you. It is not a sign of weakness to ask for help.