Dear Jess:

I hope you feel better soon. I think it is best for your own well-being to accept the ending of this relationship, to make sure it is ending and then recover from your emotional attachment to him. He reads like an honest man who is struggling. I don’t think he can “fight for (your) relationship because he is too torn up, too divided, conflicted. He doesn’t have a solid enough core of well-being to do the fighting.

I don’t believe there is anything you can do to make this relationship work at this point. At another point, if and when he is successfully employed, maybe gone through some psychotherapy, and so on, maybe then would have been the time. That time, if it comes, would be months from now,  if not longer.

You are struggling, hurting. Thing is, he can’t help you, he can’t fight for you or for the relationship. Therefore you have to take good care of yourself.

anita