J.P. ,

Thank you for your kind words. I am not very good with words but my advice here comes from my heart. I hope that when you read this you are well on the way to a lifetime of many magical moments that bring you all the love, peace, and happiness life has to offer for an eternity longer than a lifetime. It is the least you deserve. From what I see from the responses you got on this post are pretty solid words. Life is funny, J.P. Not funny ha ha, but in a strange way. We want to be involved in loving relationships, they gain momentum, the roller coaster ride begins, and we either go our separate ways, hurt/angry/resentful, or we manage to maintain that relationship for quite some time. But it’s the breakup that takes an enormous emotional toll on us. What’s key in surviving emotional hurt is how we try to spend time trying to learn from it. Some things that erode at our ability to learn from a breakup are things like, shame, blame, and guilt, none of which have any value or contribute to getting over a bad relationship. Sometimes, usually in a person’s first meaningful relationship, it takes a while to get over the break up with who we believed to be “the one.” Once we do we move on and hopefully take those lessons with us and find a healthier relationship. I think thane problem in relationships when it comes to arguing/fighting is we don’t know how to do that in a healthy way. We tend to make matters worse first by raising the emotional bar then resort to personal attacks of name calling etc and by doing so we drift from the original reason for the argument. This puts the emotional connection and resolution on the back burner.

If you do not mind I would like to know your age and the interactions and relationship you have had with your family. In knowing that maybe I can give you better advice, not that I’m an expert.

Please enjoy a perfect weekend.

Pearce