Hi Brandy,

I can understand how frustrating this can be. Does he have kids of his own? At 36 years old, usually people have settled down and are tired of the bar scene. I know in my early 30’s, I was getting tired of it, and wanted to do something less superficial. It may sound like you might have be firm and assertive and set boundaries. Tell him, you value time with your children and although he does not “have” to spend all weekend with them, that you would really enjoy his company, and him being part of their lives? Does he not like children, or feel resentful of them? Some men do, because they want to “control” and have you all to themselves. Him making you go to bars every weekend is a form of “control” and it is not loving or respectful at all that he yells at you just because you do not want to do the same thing weekend after weekend. His yelling is a form of emotional abuse and control over your life, just as his “sulking” when you see your children. He needs to shape up!. I would not be able to put up with this behavior and neither should you. Neither should you feel you have to knock back drinks just to make it through the night.

Does your boyfriend have a drinking problem? Does he drink at home? Definitely, tell him how it makes you feel, and tell him you will no longer put up with his rude and disrespectful behavior. At 36, he needs to become more cultured outside of the same bars and at least try different things. He at least needs to want to be around your children, this is a huge red flag.