Dear Mina:

You expressed lack of appreciation to this “best guy friend” as a potential boyfriend (“I genuinely think that my best friend only wants me as a girlfriend because I am pretty. I am a trophy girlfriend for him”), or as one being able or willing to have a healthy, respectful relationships with women in his life (“he treats his mother like a maid. And he does not have a good relationship with his sister”).

This does not fit, it is not congruent, with you expressing appreciation of him as a good friend to you, a woman, a pretty face.

It felt good to be with him (” I admit that there were times when I felt touched. He paid for my food, picked me and dropped me off, he listened to me and gave me advices. He REMINDED me in some ways of my ex boyfriend.), but it is my understanding that you don’t value him, and your motivation for a friendship is self-serving, manipulative and dishonest. After all, you wouldn’t tell him what you shared about him here, would you.

Will be back to the computer in 17 hours or so.

anita