Hi Kate,

Sometimes, when people are together for many years, you are right you can love each other, but seeing each other every day or very often, doing the same thing, sometimes many couples lose that “spark” the trick is to do things with each other to bring that “spark” back. Many couples go somewhere they have never been. The newness, the excitement, creates newness and brings back the initial euphoria of chemistry, that you had in the beginning of the relationship. Other couples go to couples therapy. Others have “date nights” just getting out and doing something you both have never done.

If you are not ready to get back with him, don’t over think it, or put pressure on yourself. If it causes you distress after two weeks of no contact, just tell him, you are not ready at this time for friendship, that it is too soon. Try to take it one day at a time, one hour at a time. You are going to go through alot of emotions. But, if you really love this man, you can get the passion back.