Dear Mina:

You are aware then of how important it is to be understood and accepted emotionally. Such is so rare that your ex boyfriend happens to be the first person in your life to understand and accept you emotionally, isn’t it so? In the context of this website, you wrote that I understand you as well. It is possible to find people who will understand and accept you. I think you know that the man you consider to marry one day will have to be one to understand and accept you, one with whom you feel comfortable and welcomed to be who you are authentically, not faking anything, not faking that niceness you mentioned earlier, not hiding things (like your mother’s friend hid from her husband).

This relationship gave you tangible understanding of how necessary emotional understanding and acceptance is in one’s life. And your ex boyfriend of four months is not the only source of such.

*  I am not clear about who broke up with whom and what was the discussion regarding the breakup. You wrote so much of your commentary about the breakup that what was actually said and by whom escaped me. Would you like to write just the facts on the matter, who said what and what was said in response (not what you thought or think about what was said)?

Regarding the nature of pain, I will get to it after your next post.

anita