Dear Danielle:

Welcome back to your own thread. I was wondering if I read from you again, and glad that I am.

I will be typing-as-I-am-thinking about your situation following reading your last post:

I wish I read his posts, then I could learn about him directly, without your interpretations and your perceptions. I wonder… what if you suggested he posts here, for me to read from him directly?

Without directly reading from him, ever since his get together with an ex girlfriend when you were broken up, he was The Guilty One in this relationship. He accepted his position of being the Wrongdoer, the one lacking decency, and he accepted your position as the Authority on wrongdoing, on decency, on right and wrong.

And he continued to show you, The Authority, that he is a “changed man”, rehabilitated, restored to decency.

This makes me wonder: why, what is his reason for accepting his position and yours? What did he do, if he did, that is so wrong, so horrendous, that he accepted this position. I don’t understand. I can’t go further with my understanding, as I am stuck right here: why did he accept this position, why does he bother with a relationship where he is the Wrongdoer and you are Authority.

Any idea?

anita