Dear Danielle:

His emails come across to me as honest, spontaneous, sincere. You didn’t answer my question about why he takes all the responsibility for your preoccupation with this, why he doesn’t assign some responsibility to your OCD. Isn’t he aware of it?

I read your account, that you weren’t distrustful of him in the beginning of the relationship and you aren’t distrustful of him in the present.

Maybe you trust him currently to not get together with another woman, but you clearly expressed on this thread distrust in him telling you the truth. In the present, currently, you are concerned with whether he is telling you the truth or lying to you- and that is lack of trust in the present.

How do you change this, how can you trust him again to tell you the truth, is my question. I suppose hooking him up to a Lie Detector machine can help you? If he is willing to be hooked up to one, and he passes the test or tests, will it help you?

anita