Dear Cal:

It takes time for this kind of reality to sink in, for your previous beliefs to adjust to this new reality. This new reality, her uncaring behavior toward you may not be new, maybe it was evident before and you ignored it…? In any case, this uncaring behavior on her part is evident now, as clear as can be. A tough reality to adjust to.

How do you survive these very days, what is the nature of your interactions with her, currently? It is possible that it would be better for you to temporarily live elsewhere until there is some resolution. You may figure that it is not fair for you to live with her while she is planning on seeing another man.

anita