Dear Danielle:

You wrote that he thinks your behavior is normal (“he just puts my behavior as ‘normal’”), and he takes full responsibility for your distrust of him telling the truth. This means that he doesn’t see you as a “crazy girlfriend” and may very well agree to a lie detector test. Consider this as a possibility, maybe talk to him about it.

You wrote the lie detector idea is extreme, but so has been your obsession and amount of distress this has caused you for a long, long time.

“Why can’t I get that?” you asked, because your brain keeps firing those thoughts that trouble you so much. It automatically fire these thoughts and distress is attached to these thoughts. These are neuropathways in the brain where thoughts and emotions are intertwined and these pathways get activated again and again.

At one point you attended counseling for it, you no longer do, correct? If you attended quality counseling, maybe there you could have gained some insight, and most importantly, skills and practice in brain calming techniques and the persistence in practicing those so to calm your brain, to greatly reduce this neuropathway activation.

anita