Hello Lost Star!

I am very happy and grateful that you put such an amazing feedback and input into my thread. Thank you very much, it means a lot to me.

First of all, I am sos sorry to hear about your break up as well. I know exactly how awful it feels. I hope you are doing and is recovering well.

You asked : “I sense that you try to tolerate the distress of your needs not being met until the point that it may come out in a way that may appear to be “demanding”?

Yes, you are 100 percent correct. I have this really bad habit, that is every time we meet – I have a hard time seeing goodbye and parting ways because I truly did not know when we will be able to see each other again, I was emotionally drained out from his lack of time. It made me turned into a very clingy girlfriend and needy person.

You wrote : “I do not doubt his love for you as my personal view is that he let you go out of love as he knows that he cannot fulfil your needs and that is why he hopes that you can live your life without him.”

I share the same view as you on this one. I was in so much distress that I questioned his love for me. He did loved me, there was no doubt about it. Regardless of the whole thing that affected the break up or caused it, I can also share many things that I loved about him and a lot of things in the relationship that was very good and worth smiling over. These days, I cannot help but think what if my ex boyfriend wasn’t so much of perfectionist and If I wasn’t so needy … would this relationship lasts? Maybe not, as Anita have stated but I cannot be help to think and wish that we are still together.

Thank you once again, for writing me a beautiful and detailed feedback. You are such a nice person, you even read almost all of long threads about my ex that has been going on for months, most people would just ignore or write a stupid feedback without reading any of my posts but you read it. and most importantly, you understand 🙂

I hope that whenever you are, you will always be happy. I hope you have an amazing life and day!

Sending you all my love from Korea,

-Mina