Dear Abby:

I think that we as humans can’t help but bring our past into our future. Our emotions when strong,  don’t disappear with the change of time and circumstance.

To understand enough so to offer you advice, I ask:

His efforts to keep his contact with his ex as minimal as possible read to me like a good plan on his part, do you support that he keeps his contact with her minimal?

His resentment, anger at her, how does it harm the relationship with you, how does it bother you?

anita