Dear Amy:

I read your post here as well as your reply to the other thread. Your partner stated to you that she needs space and she is angry at you for not “making emotional space” for her in the relationship.

Here is a scenario: she comes home from work and right away you start talking to her about how you feel dissatisfied in the relationship, you talk on and on, and she doesn’t get a chance to unwind from her day, to have some alone, private time. In that case, if it happened often, makes her request for emotional space very reasonable.

In other scenarios she has plenty of alone time in the relationship, you talk when both are available and willing … but she is not willing, explodes whenever you want to talk, however rarely.

Can you give more details about the interactions with her in this regard?

anita