Hi Eliana,

This paragraph stuck out to me: “I was diagnosed with lymphoma, and she would text and say ‘how are you feeling’ and I would say ‘I am nervous and frightened’ (I am having an upcoming biopsy on thyroid nodules and under my arm. She would text back and say ‘lol, before you have had a diagnosis yet?’)”

To me, this doesn’t sound like friendly behavior. I understand we want to see the good in others and give other people the benefit of the doubt, but the types of things she was saying seemed emotionally toxic and disheartening. You deserve a true friend who can exercise compassion and understanding. I’m sorry to hear that you are feeling down regarding the loss of your friend, but it is my belief that you deserve better.