Hi Little Coconut,

You are very wise for not moving in with him. Keep heeding that instinct. Don’t move in with him. Keep your own place. Be a free agent. When opportunity calls, even from states away, heed the call.

You are not married to this man. You are not even engaged to this man. The mother does NOT dictate where YOU live. Don’t get sucked into his karmic vortex.

If you move in with him it would be very hard to leave and yet very hard to stay. And you don’t want to do that to a child.

Frankly, you shouldn’t even see the child unless you will be in his life forever. The father is trying to set it up so you feel guilt, so you move in, so you seamlessly move where the family moves, so you will help take care of the child.

You are very young. I suggest keeping the relationship light and casual. And perhaps date another young, free person.

Best,

Inky

• This reply was modified 7 years, 2 months ago by Inky.