Dear Ash:

I hope it happens then, in the context of therapy. To dissolve that glue I mentioned, it takes experiencing the hurt, the pain involved. It takes trust in the therapist, feeling safe with her/ him, to express such, over time, to … develop another belief, that you can handle such pain, that you will be okay if it is brought more intensely to your awareness.

It is the fear of experiencing this pain that keeps it repressed, under the surface, hidden. No way I know of to do it online, no suggestions that will make this process happen. But understanding what needs to be done, on some level, and having the intent to have it done can be very helpful.

anita