Dear Leocube:

First consider this real life possibility: it is possible for you to leave your family, meaning to end all contact with them. It is possible for you to do so knowing that it will hurt their feelings and it is possible for you to maintain no contact while knowing their feelings are hurt.

When you entertain this possibility in your mind, still not believing you can endure the discomfort knowing their feelings are hurt, but still imagining the possibility, you are in the process of rewiring your brain. The introduction of a new possibility is rewiring.

You can’t do a drastic rewiring work on your brain, to magically be okay with having no contact with your family. Rewiring is a gradual process of introducing new thoughts, new concepts and relaxing into them.

Imagine having no contact with them, imagine their faces showing hurt over your choice and imagine you still having no contact with them. Relax into these images- and you started the rewiring you are interested in.

Try it if you will and let me know how it goes, will you?

anita