Dear Kristen/Kamy:

I wish this didn’t happen in your life, your breakup pain compounded by the reality of having a six year old with him and being pregnant.

But it happened. You asked for help or advice. My advice is that you would be as practical as possible at this point, think and act in practical ways, best you can.

First there is the current pregnancy to attend to: you wrote: “it’s going to be hard on my own” and that his position is: “we shouldn’t continue with the pregnancy”. The pregnancy is four weeks or a bit longer, still in the early stages. A decision needs to be made as soon as possible, to keep it or terminate.

Second the co-parenting of the six year old needs to continue as undisturbed by the breakup as possible, so to protect and promote the mental well-being of your young son.

Third, your well-being, a necessary ingredient in making good choices, including choices regarding the pregnancy and the co-parenting. Do you have supportive family members and/ or friends, and I mean, continuously supportive, trustworthy?

Losing who you believed was your best friend and partner is difficult, and as you wrote, you feel alone. This is why being together, having social support, is very important. (Here, in the context of your thread, or threads to come,  I can be an online support person to you).

And fourth, your future relationship with your now ex boyfriend/ partner: either he lied to you for a while or he has known his current girlfriend for only four days, either which way is not a good thing. So trust is broken and what you believed about the relationship was not accurate. Maybe with time he will open up, be honest about what is happening in his mind and life. Until then, there is nothing you can do but focus on the things you can do something about.

I hope you post again. Sunday (today) is usually a slow day on the website. I believe other members will reply to you as well.

anita