Dear Tom:

For the purpose of not overthinking (“I don’t want to overthink her not messaging lots”) when you do communicate, maybe when you meet in person, get to know her, ask her questions, learns how she thinks. If you have the information you need, you won’t have to guess, or overthink. Ask her why she doesn’t text you or message you otherwise. If her answer is not satisfactory, ask another. Do so sensibly, gently so to invite honest answers.

Share with her how you feel, not in an overwhelming way (you don’t want to appear too needy, nor do you want to be too needy…), but in an honest, controlled way, in moderation, and see what response you get.

Get to know each other this way.

anita