Dear Leocube:

When you expressed your “disdain for them at 18 before moving to another country” and then you left and they followed you and changed their behavior, no longer mistreating you- this in itself does not mean that they are not bad people, it could very well mean that their self-interest was to stay in contact with you. It makes sense to me that they were afraid to lose contact with you (and lose self interest) following your expressed disdain and your move to another country: expressing your independence from them.

Parents mistreat their children when the children (and adult children) are dependent on them, not when the adult children are independent of them.

Not too recently they moved to your house- that may very well be their self interest which is the reason behind no longer mistreating you.

What do you think?

anita