Hi Connie,

You will have dreams like this, it is natural. I have had several sad and vivid dreams of my ex’s, even 6-8 months after a break up. It always takes me a very long time to get over someone due to early childhood abandonment issues. The dreams are crazy. One was where I was missing him, I saw him out with a girl at a bar, and I followed them into the bar. Please know this is not something I would ever do in person. I even made a fool of myself by going up to him and talking to him in front of his girlfriend. His friends and girlfriends were snickering at me. One of his friends said “I feel sorry for her”. Ouch. But it didn’t stop. I followed them again, this time crying in my dream wanting him back terribly. I did not go in the bar, I just wanted to look at him. He saw me and came out and yelled at me. I begged him to go to beach with me, to our favorite place where we would have bonfires. He got nasty and yelled “move on already!” I woke up startled and crying.

Another dream was of this guy who worked on construction. There was a house he was helping to build. It was a large house and took several months to complete. I dreamed that I went to see him, and he was so happy to see me, and we talked, curled up together, he told he he still loved me, but we couldn’t be together and he wanted me to “move on” and be happy. I remember crying, and he was caressing my face. When I woke up, he was gone. Again, I started to cry, the dream was so sad and vivid. I had a therapist tell me dreams are sometimes our subconscious, of our past, our childhoods, reliving sadness, rejection and abandonment.