Dear Mina:

I understand your reasoning. I have three questions regarding the “someone” concept in your sentence “If I want to marry “someone” – I myself have to be “someone” as well”- a concept taught to you by your mother and a social convention in Korean and other societies.

1. Can a person be a Someone before graduating a prestigious university?

2. Is there anything else required for a person to be a Someone, other than formal education and a prestigious, high paying career?

3. Is your mother a Someone? Is your father a Someone? If so, how content is each being a Someone? And are you content with either one of your parents being a Someone, does it fill your heart with contentment, peace, love?

Answer if you would like.

anita