Dear Matt:

You are welcome and thank you for your appreciation. Your life, working 60 hours per week, doing household chores in addition, taking care of your daughter and step son, watching your wife lie down in bed much of the day, this life is a very difficult, lonely life. Not much rewards in it for you, and yet you stay and do your best. Your dedication to your wife and family is outstanding.

But there must be a better way and I hope you are already there and getting there, you can’t run on empty for too long and experience well-being.

From your last post, reads to me that there haven’t been much intimate conversations with your wife, over the years, about distressing topics such as her guilt. Open, honest communication can help. If I hit the nail on the head in regard to her guilt, that is, this man, Jay, being an opportunity for her to see herself through the eyes of someone who she didn’t fail, someone who doesn’t see her as a failure, then, how do you proceed, having this understanding?

anita