Dear Monica:

You are welcome. Finally, self empathy, self compassion, finally you placed your focus on you.

You wrote that you promised yourself to not think of him anymore, or get sad when you do. Better form this intent, not expecting to not feel anything by deciding not to. Emotions have a way of defying our rational decisions. When you do think of him, when you feel sad, do what you did here: shift your focus from him to you.

Engage in empathy for you. And then put that empathy into practice.

You didn’t lose Monica- you lost your focus on Monica.

anita