Dear N:

Somewhere along the way you learned that your thoughts and feelings are unacceptable, annoying is your word. So you hide those and so, you are unable to engage in intimate, sincere relationships.

You wrote that your father said he married your mother because he liked her, that is, he found her acceptable, found her thoughts and feelings acceptable, letting her express those freely, making a sincere and intimate relationship possible. Am I correct?

In the relationship between your mother and you; between your father and you, did either one reject your thoughts and feelings, express such … dislike?

anita