Dear Megan:

Last December you shared this about your mother in regard to your eating disorder:  “(she) made shameful comments towards me. For example, she noticed I had eaten a lot of food and asked ‘did you enjoy your binge?’ She also caught me purging in my bedroom once and said ‘you can do whatever you want when you leave the house. No more puking.’…  She also once said, ‘all you’ve been doing is eating all day,’with no constructive comments to make afterwards, leaving me to feel immense amounts of shame about my eating disorders”

You are now considering having a weekly conversation with her or moving back in with her so to help yourself heal and recover from your bulimia. Has there  been healing of your relationship with your mother since December? Does she no longer trigger shame in you?

anita