Dear petitvoyager:

You wrote: “when I talk about my dreams and hopes that he feels bad that he doesn’t have any”- if he feels bad for not having dreams and hopes of the kind you do, that means he feels unacceptable. If so, I have no doubt that he has a dreams and hope to be acceptable just the way he is.

You wrote: “He is so supportive of my adventurous spirit, and I want to support his goals but he doesn’t have any”- he does have a goal, to be supported for his spirit (emotions, mental going-ons). He does have a spirit too. I am sure of it.

anita