Dear Keiran:

Being in this relationship you feel uncomfortable. No wonder you don’t want to be in it. It is not that he is the wrong man or that there is something wrong with this new relationship in itself. Thing is being in it causes you distress because, I believe, it brings to the surface what you call insecurity or lack of self love.

When in a relationship, we tend to project our thoughts and our beliefs into the other person. We imagine, in your case, you imagine that it is he who is thinking you are boring when it is you that are thinking that you are boring. You imagine he is thinking that you are not valuable when it is you who are thinking and believing it.

If you end this new relationship, you may experience a relief, less discomfort, no one to project into your thoughts and beliefs, but these thoughts and beliefs will continue to be there, in your brain. Changing core beliefs (like: I am not valuable) is possible.

Hope you post again.

anita