Dear Craig:

I’m writing you this from the bottom of my heart. I’m going to speak from HER side…I’m a medstudent and I lost a 4 yr relationship due to depression and anxiety, not because I didn’t love him, actually, sometimes I feel I love him more than I love myself, but clinical depression isn’t just “sad mood” and crying…It comes along with feelings of not being worthy, extreme guilt, sleep and eating disorders, trouble focusing on your career and your personal life. I knew this because I studied this topic for psychiatry…but everything changed when I first went to a psychiatrist, and she asked me if I recently like an “outsider” in my life…I realized I did feel that way. I felt I had no longer control in my emotions, I was just “alive”…

I really think that she should accept that this is a disease, and thank God it can be managed! With a physician and a psychologist. You should firstly, make sure if she wants your help (BUT ASK HER! DO NOT TAKE THINGS FOR GRANTED), if she does, advice how can she fix this from another point of view….I’m sure that If she was looking for wedding dresses, is because she thought she could spend her whole life w/you…so, fix it up: together.

Best wishes!