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February 17, 2018 at 9:13 pm #193039
Dear VJ, the videos are great!!! Thank you so much for your help <3October 25, 2017 at 4:38 pm #174915
My therapist suggested me to do the following: fold a sheet of paper in two parts, in one side write the qualities// attitudes// how he made u feel when he was with you and in the other side write the same but how is he right now? Ex. in the left side write “he used to make me feel loved and secure” and in the right side “he is making feel anxious, angry and depressed”…
You’ll see which side weights more; it’s a way you can see objectively that the one you love is not longer here. Sometimes when we are in a relationship, unconsciously, we adapt our values or attitudes to fit with the other part…when we are alone, is when we our true-self comes out. So, the cheater, the cold…is what he really is.
I hope you get better, much love
October 25, 2017 at 4:07 pm #174907
- This reply was modified 3 years, 1 month ago by Miss Healing.
I can’t find the words to express how thankful I am for you reply, I’m astounded by the way you wrote your beautiful thoughts.
Really felt connected with your situation as well, but please never try to take away your life again…It would be a great loss for the world, as you say, you are a true fighter and that’s what fighters do…remember what they say about resilience; if you feel desperate again remember there is always a way out of the situation you are going through.
The only advice I can give you from the bottom of my heart is….wait. During the summer I couldn’t stop crying and feeling broke because I was literally begging for his love and he didn’t give a s****t, I really wanted to know what was going on in his mind and heart, I never got a simple answer…so the only thing I could do was let the time pass and hope for the best. If the earthquake hadn’t happened, I’m almost sure that things wouldn’t have changed… so; yeah, maybe it’s cliche but time fixes things in a very particular way. I mean, what were the chances to my city to be destroyed?…none!
So…trust the universe, if something needs to be done to fix your life or…your relationship….it’s going to happen!!
Maybe I’m not the right one to tell you this, but depression, it’s a medical condition and needs to be fix with special drugs. You should really go with a psychiatrist to fix this condition, if you talk about your problems with a psychologist AND you are being treated with medicine….in that way I’m pretty sure you are going to get better…trust me. I send you my love and light.October 24, 2017 at 4:25 pm #174677
Maybe, more than a explanation or an apology… I’m looking forward to talk about what happened, since he has always been the kind of guy who doesn’t face thing as I would expect. I really love him, obviously I want to know what is going on in his head, what did he feel or why did he react in that painful way to me.
I think that wanting to get an apology is more related to my ego, not my true-self…Thanks for your advice.
Much love!October 15, 2017 at 7:29 pm #173347
I’m 21 yrs so I feel you when you talk about the social-media-anxiety. The best you can do is talk about this with your boyfriend, and be honest about the way you feel when he goes out with his friends, I’m sure he is going to offer some ways u can feel better, maybe he can text you what he is doing, how’s the whole thing going and sending you a message at the time he arrives home in order you can sleep without feeling anxious. I think it isn’t like psycho gf needs!!
While he is out try to think or do other things you like, maybe watch some movies on Netflix with your phone away. It keeps your mind away. I hope you feel better the next time he goes out!!
Much loveOctober 15, 2017 at 6:40 pm #173339
I’m writing you this from the bottom of my heart. I’m going to speak from HER side…I’m a medstudent and I lost a 4 yr relationship due to depression and anxiety, not because I didn’t love him, actually, sometimes I feel I love him more than I love myself, but clinical depression isn’t just “sad mood” and crying…It comes along with feelings of not being worthy, extreme guilt, sleep and eating disorders, trouble focusing on your career and your personal life. I knew this because I studied this topic for psychiatry…but everything changed when I first went to a psychiatrist, and she asked me if I recently like an “outsider” in my life…I realized I did feel that way. I felt I had no longer control in my emotions, I was just “alive”…
I really think that she should accept that this is a disease, and thank God it can be managed! With a physician and a psychologist. You should firstly, make sure if she wants your help (BUT ASK HER! DO NOT TAKE THINGS FOR GRANTED), if she does, advice how can she fix this from another point of view….I’m sure that If she was looking for wedding dresses, is because she thought she could spend her whole life w/you…so, fix it up: together.