Dear Samyukta:

You wrote: “I woke up to her call telling me she’d overdosed on pills, and she wished that I’d been there on the phone with her at least at that time. It felt really bad that I hadn’t done that. I can’t shake that feeling of guilt and loss…”-

When the above happened, she was in India and you were in the U.S.  My question to you is the following: if you were feeling very badly, lonely, distressed in the U.S., and you took an overdose of pills, would you have told her that you overdosed because of her, that it was her fault? Would you have given her that “gift” of guilt?

anita