Thanks Anita.
It’s frustrating for me as well because I am results driven so I say “ok so what are we going to do about this?” but there is always a reason/excuse for not being able to resolve the situation.
I feel, that his situation could be made better if he took a different approach to his current one, he currently emotionally takes it on, will get annoyed at his company etc.. his company is a sham, I don’t dispute that, & when he airs his concerns to them he doesn’t get heard – or so he thinks & the problems continue. I’ve suggested getting a new job but for some reason he hasn’t been actively looking (or he is & he hasn’t said). He has been signed off of work for two weeks & is dreading going back tomorrow – I don’t want to stress him out further or add to his worries, but at the same time I need to be honest with him about how I feel also.
I’m not perfect, but I can’t think of a time I repeatedly shared something distressing with him & didn’t come to a resolution – because for me, this is how I now cope with things – by solving it, changing it, or accepting it.
It worries me going forward about his resilience to problems & stress.

Poppy