Dear joanna:

You wrote about your father: “He didn’t even do anything bad, he just kept ignoring me”- it is bad enough for a child, when her father ignores her. Later on in life you may hear of …really bad things fathers do and you may think: compare to that, my father didn’t do anything bad. But as a child, you don’t compare and you don’t feel better as a result. You simply experience what is available for you to experience. Clearly, having been ignored hurt you plenty.

I am glad you are more calm. There is less suffering in calm, isn’t there?

“how to stop suffering. How to let go and not feel hurt so much”- there is a long, long list of how not to (try and) stop suffering. How to stop suffering effectively? Notice it, accept it, let it be. These are words: notice, accept, let… they mean nothing unless they translate to tangibly experiencing these things, bit by bit.

anita