Dear Heartbrokengurl:

You are making a very good point: “what he’s doing isn’t rally fair to me”, so this point needs to be considered.

“Don’t want to give up on us” reads better to me. I would add to it a question, to him: would you prefer that I do give up on us?

You are desperate, you wrote but you don’t want to come across as desperate- that is a tough one to achieve convincingly, over a longer period of time. I would say better not try to achieve what is unlikely to be successful. Instead, what I would do, if  was you, with your desperation and so forth (and I do know how it is to feel desperate, having been that myself), would be to tell him something like: I feel desperate to not lose you but I know that somehow I will survive it if it happens.

What do you think?

anita