Dear Heartbrokengurl:

I don’t think you can put the idea that you are desperate into his head. He probably already sensed it. He probably already knows, and so, when you tell him, it will not be telling him a secret. Here is what can surprise him and make him feel better:

If you tell him that you are desperate, but not in an embarrassed way, not in a way that shows you are ashamed that you are, but in a confident way, that will … well, it would impress me if I was him. Wow, he may say to himself, she is strong… I wonder if I can tell her that I am anxious in that way, not being ashamed that I am.

anita