Dear freddo:

You are welcome and I am glad you are back to your thread with an update. Nice that you found work right away at a 4 star hotel and for having a good time in France. You will soon have the kids, a month from now, maybe you will be going hiking with them and I hope you, your mother and the kids can have a good time together. Good to read still, that you value parenting as highly as you do.

You wrote about your ex wife: “Lately she is complaining that taking care of the kids is too much for her” and you follow with your understanding of her complaining: “She tries to make me feels bad I guess. She forgot who dumped who…-

But maybe she really meant what she said, maybe she is overwhelmed with being a mother. Maybe this is why she will be spending her vacation time/money bringing them over to you next month, to get a break. If this is her motivation, as the good father that you are, talk to her, try to find out what she can do, following the break she gets November, to manage parenting without being overwhelmed.

anita