Dear Heartbrokengurl:

He communicated some things to you that are helpful. Most important to my understanding regarding how you should go about it is: “he doesn’t want to feel pressured”.

This means to me that if you continue communication with him, if you choose to talk and see him again, as in going for a bike ride next, better not pressure him. This means to not talk about the future of your relationship, not in direct ways and not in indirect ways, but focus on the now, relax best you can.

The title of your thread is “a fight (for a man, for a relationship with a man)- do they work?”

If you choose to fight, that would be with your impatience, your anxiety, so to be able to spend time with him with absolutely no mention of a future with him.

anita