I agree, the way he loves has been really painful for me, though he seems to be much better for his girlfriend, as he says. I feel heard for the first time in therapy, because although there is a lot of sadness, he is listening and there is a witness who guides the conversation. In therapy, neither one of us is screaming or fighting. However, 2 years later, I wonder why we’re there. It feels good for me to get the loss of our relationship and our child of my chest and not carry it alone anymore. But 3 sessions into it, I wonder why he wanted this, how it benefits him, and how I will feel at the end. I don’twonder much about the new girlfriend, because I am being respectful, and I figure that if he loved me so much he would not to be with someone else in a stable relationship. Also,  he immediately text sir after each session .  Although I don’t know if she is aware of the drinks afterwards .  But,  I keep  body contact to a minimum ,  the somehow I see him trying to hug me  more every time.  I imagine this is because of  the sadness and emotions lived during the sessions . So I keep my distance. Not too bad for the scary EX.