Dear James Ireland:

I think that your ex, having had a relationship with your best friend at the time was significant enough for her to share with you in any context, including a long distance casual friendship. There is dishonesty in her none sharing.

You wrote: “I would love to see this friend group and relive some of the great times we had”- things changed so having the same great times is probably not a realistic expectation. She is not part of that group, correct? If so, maybe you can talk individually with her ex boyfriend, your ex best friend and figure out the current state of that friendship.

anita