Dear Gigi:

You value some things about him, mostly you value how you felt with him, at times.

All that you felt with him during the good moments is not all a factor of who he was, but who you made believe that he was. I think that you made believe he is trustworthy.

You wrote: “how he would take care of me when I was down, even when he put me down”- you did indeed split him into two people: the one who took care of you when you were hurt and the one who hurt you. If you realized the two were one, you would get away from the person who hurt you.

anita