Dear Gigi:

You wrote: “If they can’t let go, we (ex girlfriends) are not always the ones to blame”-

when a man still longs for an ex girlfriend and has contact with the longed for ex girlfriend, and the new girlfriend is blaming the ex girlfriend, and not the boyfriend, for the mutual contact, then the new girlfriend needs to blame the ex so that she can continue her relationship with her boyfriend.

Her blaming the ex is not based on an objective reality but on her emotional need to continue her relationship with an “innocent victim” of a blameworthy ex girlfriend.

anita