Hi Lea,

It seems we get all get caught up in a vicious cycle of punishing ourselves for past events that we no longer have control over. We can’t worry about it, because it won’t change anything, we just learn from it, accept that we are all human with faults, that the person we were with at the time also had their own issues and faults, and everything happens for a reason. When we live inside our head and keep thinking in terms of “if only” “should have” “could have” “what if I would have” we are just tormenting ourselves with thoughts that are not realistic. People move on, and grow. God has something better in store for you. Doors will be opened for you for a better future. Just live one day at a time, and in the present. When you start thinking about the past or negative thoughts, close your eyes and visualise a “stop sign” this will halt your thinking and distract you, because we can’t visualize a road “stop sign” and past events at the same time.

Listen to some relaxing music, volunteer with animals, join a book club, take a bubble bath, go to Barnes and Noble, get a cup of hot cocoa or espresso and immerse yourself in a good book. Just do whatever it is to be good to yourself. Focus on something you have something to look forward to. Keep us posted. x