Hi Tom,

there are many reasons why she had a one night stand a few months ago and we don’t know them so perhaps, as Anita says, get to know her more and assess her character and just ask her. Normally gut feelings are right about a person.

it’s not an ideal situation but if you are serious about her, and it sounds like you like her, then my thoughts are that life rarely is ideal and you have to think if you would regret not sticking by her at this time. Only you know that. You could be friends, but in my experience it’s hard to be friends with someone you fancy/have feelings for and that could make it more confusing and harder if you decide to end it. so if that’s the case perhaps not be in her life at all for now.

Only you both can work it out how you see fit and only you both know best. I appreciate it is a dilemma but normally your gut feeling, deep down knows best eg when you first wake up, in the shower or driving you normally have a feel for where you should go.