Your welcome Gagan, just remember, not to board the train. When you think the thoughts, think of yourself sitting on a hill. You are watching a train go by. Each train is your thoughts. Don’t “become” your thoughts. Simply observe them, each train going by, is your thought, don’t board the train. Also, your thoughts are never “good” or “bad” they are simply that. Thoughts. So, if you think of her, it’s okay. The thought is neither good or bad. Watch it on the hill, observe the train, then bring yourself back to the present.

Another good distraction skill is “The stop sign”. You will become better at this as time goes on. If you keep thinking of her, and start to board the train. Close your eyes. Visualize a road stop sign. What does it look like? Color? Where is it at? Any other cars around? When you are busy visualizing this scenario, it is impossible, to think of her and visualise a stop sign at the same time. This is called the “HALT” process in mindfulness and very effective. Keep posting with your thoughts.