Hi Nightflower,

If he is not happy with his life right now with he is not going to be happy with anything at this time. This includes, job, friends, family, relationship, etc. I understand and commend you for wanting to be there for him, but if he is questioning your future together, and making confusing comments, leaving you in doubt, I would re-evaluate the relationship at this time. I think he wants to travel so he can “find himself”.

Things don’t appear like they are going to change, he is saying things, but not walking his talk. At this time, he sounds he is not emotionally available for whatever reason for a committed relationship. You can talk to him and reason with him until you are blue in the face, but I think I’m the end, he is going to continue to want to be alone to travel, to see his Mom, his interest in his new friend, what he wants out of his life, etc. Perhaps quality Psychotherapy would be good for him at this time, as he seems very confused, doubtful, distant and unhappy. He is going to continue to leave you out unfortunately, as he is unhappy, and you are probably going to become more and more resentful. You can either wait for him to figure things out, although it may be a very long time or take a small break from each other while he figures out what he wants. If he made the comment about being convinced about loving you, these are all signs of red flags and that the relationship is becoming stagnant and he is unable to invest more into the relationship at this time. Keep us posted. x

• This reply was modified 7 years, 1 month ago by Eliana.