Dear Junsheng:

You asked if you should try to win her back- only if there is a chance of success and if the prize of success is indeed a prize. When you win something you get a prize, a reward. If you won her back, is she indeed a reward, something positive in your life, this is the question.

The pain in your chest, the nausea you feel, naturally you want that to be gone, that will be a reward. Only if she is not a reward, the relief of that pain will be temporary and more pain added to it.

Regarding communication, you wrote: “she stopped feeling the love from me”, this is what she told you. But maybe it is not true, maybe she stopped loving you as she was starting to love, or get close, to the other guy.

You wrote: “She told me she no longer have any patience for me, but that she still loved me”- love is patient. Having no patience for you at all, regularly,  and loving you still, I don’t see these two things together as true. Do you?

anita