Dear Micky:

First, better have a realistic understanding of feelings/ emotions. The two words mean the same for me, at this point. Some separate the word emotion to e-motion, or energy-in-motion. As such it is not solid, it doesn’t stay the same. An emotion is a mental event, an occurrence in the brain that involves chemicals, neurotransmitters and hormones sent to other parts of the body. Emotions come and go, keep changing. And so, do not be alarmed when your emotions change. This is their nature.

Unlike fairytales and other fiction, no one is in love “forever after”.

Second, the fears and suffering that follow when you lose that in-love emotion, that has to do with experiences you had before you met this man, these thoughts are pre-recordings from long ago. Would you like to describe your earliest relationship or relationships, that would be with a parent or parents?

anita