Dear Mary:

At this point, after several threads on this issue starting August of this year, I am thinking that you may be suffering from paranoid thinking.

I have no doubt that you were wronged by others. But your perception of being wronged grew to such an extent that it is now delusional.

If you look at Wikipedia’s entry on the matter, it reads “… paranoid cognition (is defined as) persecutory delusions… around ideas of being harassed, threatened, harmed, subjugated, persecuted, accused, mistreated, wronged, tormented, disparaged…by malevolent others, either specific individuals or groups”. I think that the malevolent other in your case is the person you refer to as “the narc” and the malevolent group for you is anyone who is friendly with her.

Paranoid thinking includes (Wiki, see “Paranoia”): “preoccupation with unjustified doubts about the loyalty, or trustworthiness, of friends and associates” and “reluctance to confide in others because of unwarranted fear that the information will be used maliciously against them”.

I believe quality psychotherapy will benefit you.

anita